Whether you were already rooming together, or waiting until after wedding bells ring to sign the paperwork on a joint lease, there will most likely come a time where you and your boo live under the same roof.
From couple to couple, relationships are unique in a countless number of ways, except for one—increased commitment brings with it the increased likelihood that you and your significant other will end up discussing the possibility of a shared living space. Whether you were already rooming together, or waiting until after wedding bells ring to sign the paperwork on a joint lease, there will most likely come a time where you and your boo live under the same roof.
Merge Your Interior Styles
Combining bachelor and bachelorette pads without at least some conflict along the way is basically impossible. Expecting (and preparing yourself for) the inevitable arguments on décor is the key to keeping your relationship healthy—couples that don’t argue at least somewhat about the layout of their new home essentially don’t exist.
Additionally, you may want to keep in mind the possibility of getting rid of some non-essential items during your move. There’s a good chance that the two of you may have amassed a large quantity of non-essentials that can be tossed/donated to lighten your overall load, including old clothes, non-functional furniture, etc.
That framed poster of Seinfeld’s Kramer may have been the bomb while you were in college, but if you don’t see a place for it in your new abode, consider giving it to one of your single bros as opposed to permanently storing it in your guest bedroom.
Expect to do Everything
You read that correctly—transitioning into the rhythm of sharing chores and responsibilities is going to be confusing and complex –expecting both parties to successfully rotate chore duties on a volunteer basis, without any issues, is most likely setting yourself up for disaster.
Having a mindset where you fully expect dishes, etc. to not be done unless you personally complete them can be a fail safe way to prevent unneeded tension due to crossed communication wires. In time, shared responsibilities will become more seamless as you both adapt to a successful routine.
What’s more, this preliminary approach to household chores will set the bar high in helping you to develop an inherent habit of always cleaning up after yourself, which can save more headaches over time than you can imagine.
Relationships often include unfortunate qualities or aspects that can sour your overall mood, whether they have to do with entertaining your significant other’s bizarre extended family members during the holidays, being painfully aware that you married someone with bad taste in music, or even realizing that you now permanently room with someone who prefers the thermostat’s temperature be 10 degrees warmer.
However, don’t make the mistake of feeling that these things make you and your spouse a less-than-ideal match—married life seldom enjoys the privilege of being perfect, but moving past the difficult aspects of being with a person is key to a healthy relationship in the long term.