| Jan 27, 2015
One thing that any experienced mover will tell you is that every move is unique in its own way—the standard living arrangement portrayed in classic television and beyond is mostly imaginary, as every family (or group of roomies) has their own story to tell. Whether it be due to economic shrewdness, career requirements, or location, odds are you’re going to find yourself making moves that come down to necessity and circumstance throughout your adult life.
The old adage says that the family of the 21st century is made up of friends, but does the motto hold up under the weight of prolonged time, limited space, and beyond? Follow our tips below to ensure your roommate to roommate relations are built to last.
Picking the Right Person
Having the right roommate is generally step one toward a successful joint living effort, as convenient (or inconvenient) as that may be. Before fully committing to the idea of moving in with someone, you’ll want to make sure they’re the right person for the job, so to speak. Are they someone that you know exceptionally well?
It may surprise you to know that many find that a closer, more long-term friend can actually make a less ideal roommate than someone who leans more toward being an acquaintance. A seldom acknowledged fact of significant friendships is that, like it or not, they have the propensity to carry significant baggage. That friend that was around for all the good times in college may suddenly become a challenge to spend time with, once you no longer have private abodes to take breaks from one another in.
Learning to Compromise
Moving from a solo pad to a joint living arrangement will bring a unique set of challenges that are best tackled when expected, and prepared for. Comprising in fundamental aspects, like furniture arrangement and rent-splitting, will eventually give way to more specific scenarios, such as music volume, off-limits foods and more.
While these situations will each have to be tackled independently, going in with the expectation of inevitable compromise can prove to be a much more successful attitude than taking up the joint lease with the expectation that nothing will change—plan on butting heads from the get-go, and the eventual arguments won’t come as such a dramatic shock (and asking before drinking your roommate’s orange juice can also go a long way.)
Let it Go
It’s more than just a Disney song. It’s very important to remember that living with ANYONE is a challenge, whether they be your best friend, or your least favorite coworker. At the end of the day, the people you live with are something of a family, so you’ll find a lot of continued success from being willing to let minor transgressions go, and not seethe over every minor kerfuffle.
The next time you find yourself inclined to leave a passive aggressive note on top of that empty toilet paper roll, take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Odds are, grabbing a fresh roll out of the cabinet and moving on will prove to be the win-win choice for your peace of mind, and your drama-free home.